“Popular beliefs” often say the opposite

There are often alternatives to do things with totally different results.

Solving Problems and Praying

Thinking—will make little change even over years. Drugs block change.

Talking—even saying “I have a problem” might already give you solutions that months of thinking did not produce. Writing a letter does the same. Just talking about a dream reveals more about it and (repetition) takes away the need to dream it again. Jewish Prayer must be said, not thought.

Taking Notes

Typing—you will not remember a thing unless you say with your lips what you’re typing.

Writing—somehow your pen strokes create memories.

Memorizing

Listening, Reading—you might not record a thing.

Telling yourself—(stronger: thinking about what to tell others about it) makes remembering easier. Sloppy self-talkers (con artists and dyslectics) have a harder time recalling what happened.

Information Gathering

Naïve from One Source—you risk being brainwashed by ‘authorities.’ Advertisement

Naïve from Range of Sources—you risk getting confused when ‘facts’ and ‘authorities’ don’t match.

Not Naïve from Range of Sources—you are on top of the stories.

Sharing Opinions

Only Facts—no half-truths.

Lies—distancing you from others. Advertisement

Indiscriminately—not enough checking if it is factual.

Feelings

Ignoring—leaving the feelings free reign.

Faking—exaggerating cover-up feelings like anger, jealousy, and conceit.

Acknowledging—opens a possibility to choose to act on them or not.

Upgrading Our Personality

Generating Feelings—but feelings are transitory.

Acting—even small steps in the right direction create lasting change.

Connecting with Others

Talking—is risky because you can never be sure what the other needs to hear. A trick is to ask if they possibly feel, need, value, want …

Listening—friendly making eye contact, making clear that you’re attentive, present, having all the time in the world, if only for five minutes. Dogs and some people need touch more than eye contact. Cats prefer eye contact.

Relationships and Having Relations

Taking—only giving yourself pleasant feelings isolates you.

Receiving—only gives fleeting pleasant feelings and lasting ego.

Giving—to others pleasant feelings makes you love them permanently.

Eating

Taste First—no or short-lived satisfaction.

Nutrition, Chewing First—satisfies. Should taste well, though.

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“Popular beliefs” often say the opposite

There are often alternatives to do things with totally different results.

Solving Problems and Praying

Thinking—will make little change even over years. Drugs block change.

Talking—even saying “I have a problem” might already give you solutions that months of thinking did not produce. Writing a letter does the same. Just talking about a dream reveals more about it and (repetition) takes away the need to dream it again. Jewish Prayer must be said, not thought.

Taking Notes

Typing—you will not remember a thing unless you say with your lips what you’re typing.........

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