As a soon-to-be mother of six children, I am constantly asked how I am able to do it. My answer is always the same: The man I married makes it a joyful experience. He even delivered our fourth child himself and treats me with great care and consideration while simultaneously finding exceptional joy in parenting himself. Choosing a man who values family above all gave me a headstart on raising children who thrive.

Too many people find themselves overwhelmed and frustrated with parenting because they did not fully understand the importance of making a thoughtful parenting partner choice. Modern dating is often overly focused on sexual desire, infatuation, and romance. While these aspects of relationship development have value, they overlook one of the most important decisions human beings have to make. The first and most important parenting decision a parent can make is who to have a child with.

We have culturally been so focused on avoiding conflict and telling others that whatever they want to do is OK that we have stopped equipping people with the information they need to reach the goals they want. Who we have children with has far-reaching consequences. Who we create children with is called mate selection. Mate selection is a process whereby individuals choose an appropriate partner for reproduction.........

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