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Is It Love or Just Great Sex? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself to Find Out.

Do you feel a disconnect between the sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship?

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So often, people stay in unhealthy, unfulfilling relationships because of strong physical intimacy and chemistry. I’ve heard this justification countless times from friends and even strangers on TikTok. They’ll share 10 reasons why their relationship is falling apart, then rationalize their decision to stay with shrugged shoulders and a simple “but the sex is so good.”

“Physical chemistry is powerful, and it doesn’t switch off just because the emotional side of a relationship has changed,” says Emily Conway, adult intimacy expert and CEO of Dragon Toys. “That disconnect between what you feel in the bedroom and what you feel everywhere else can make things incredibly hard to make sense of.”

Do you feel a disconnect between the sexual and emotional intimacy in your relationship? If so, here are five questions to ask yourself before going any deeper.

1. Is Sex Holding the Relationship Together?

While sex is important to many people, it’s certainly not the end-all, be-all of healthy........

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