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In modern relationships, we are routinely exposed to “this or that” messaging about what we should do in relationships and what they should look like. As a couples therapist, I often see how these assumptions influence the way partners interpret each other's actions, approach conflict, and define relationship success. Here are several common relationship “this or that" dilemmas for you to test your assumptions alongside what my years of clinical practice and research suggest.

Resolve the Issue now or Take Space

While you might feel pressure to resolve conflict immediately, continuing a conversation when emotions are high can just make things worse. If you take intentional space from an issue when emotions are escalating, this is not the same as avoidance or the silent treatment if the request is communicated clearly and paired with a plan to reconnect. Healthy conflict resolution demonstrates balancing the need for connection with the need for emotional regulation. The goal isn’t to end conflict as quickly as possible. Instead, the goal is to resolve it productively.

During most conflicts, feeling understood actually matters more than finding an immediate solution. Nearly 69 percent of relationship conflict stems from perpetual issues, like the fundamental differences in........

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