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I've accidentally gone on strike from sex, men, marriage and kids

In South Korea, thousands of women have decided to opt out of dealing with men entirely. They are refusing to marry (bihon), have children...

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I dated an AI boyfriend for two weeks and I felt guilty for ‘cheating’ on him

A few weeks ago, I read an article about a new trend amongst young women in China, who were having long-term, romantic relationships with AI generated...

09.04.2024 3

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Why happily married people cheat

I’ve done a lot of things I’m not proud of, but I’ve never cheated on a partner. Don’t worry, I won’t be breaking out the halo polish...

02.04.2024 10

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Why all straight men should try pegging once

The last time I spoke about “pegging” in front of a group of people was on a work away day when a very sweet, older colleague overheard the...

26.03.2024 5

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The menopause revolution is at a dangerous tipping point

I was 39 when Davina McCall’s Sex, Myths and the Menopause dropped on Channel 4 in 2021. And it did drop. Like an atom bomb. Seemingly overnight,...

19.03.2024 5

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I’m not sharing my bed with boyfriends anymore

Picture the scene: its 2am in the morning and I am lying in bed, wide awake. The man beside me is sleeping like a baby, and why wouldn’t he be? He...

12.03.2024 6

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It's not women who hate dad bods - it's men

The concept of the “dad bod” entered our cultural lexicon around 2015. One of the earliest confirmed uses of the term is in the now viral essay...

06.03.2024 10

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I learned the hard way that bad kissers are always terrible in bed

Last year scientists revised the date of the first kiss from 1500 BCE to 2500 BCE. The paper, authored by Troels Pank Arbøll and Sophie Lund...

27.02.2024 3

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Being old and childfree scared me, but here’s how I found a way to celebrate it

I don’t have kids. I did that on purpose. I am one of the growing number of women who decided being a mum just wasn’t for them. The childfree...

20.02.2024 2

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Wegovy worked for me, but I lost a lot more than weight

If you haven’t yet heard the words “Ozempic” or “Wegovy” where have you been? Both are the brand names for semaglutide, the much-hyped...

14.02.2024 7

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I'm terrified of break-ups. Is this why I've been single for 10 years?

You’ve been with your partner for a while now, maybe you live together, maybe there are kids. In the beginning, the pair of you were all passion and...

07.02.2024 10

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The uncomfortable truth about dating apps

I’m off the dating apps, and I mean it this time. I know there are folk out there who met over Tinder and then waltzed off into the sunset to live...

31.01.2024 3

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Period sex is the sexual taboo that I just don't get

Even if you haven’t watched it, I am going assume that most of us, at the very least, have now become aware of the film Saltburn, written, directed,...

25.01.2024 6

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Don't ask me how many people I've slept with. I don't know

There are many red flags to watch out for when embarking on a romantic relationship; lovebombing, jealousy, how they treat the waiting staff, all...

16.01.2024 5

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My boobs have started to sag - and it's taught me a lot

I have long been fascinated with our culture’s obsession with breasts. Because we are, aren’t we? Obsessed. We are hardly running low on boobs –...

09.01.2024 4

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My sex experts of the year - and what we can learn from them

Leading artists, philanthropists and activists have been applauded for their talents in a flurry of 2023 round-ups over the past fortnight. But as we...

05.01.2024 3

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My New Year's resolution is to stop pleasing men in bed

According to a YouGov survey, only 16 per cent of Brits are planning on making a New Year’s Resolution this year. That’s a lot lower than I would...

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I'm getting my revenge on obnoxious couple culture this Christmas

Happy Cuffing Season, everybody! What do you mean you’ve never heard of it? You must be one of those strange people who does not live your life...

13.12.2023 4

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Everything you know about 'love languages' is wrong

I know you have heard someone talk about “love languages” before. Maybe they did it to make a joke. “Netflix and chill are my love language”,...

06.12.2023 5

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It's not the science of the new male contraceptive I don't trust – it's the men

I don’t think I am going to get much argument from pointing out that, historically, the burden of not getting pregnant has fallen to the woman/the...

28.11.2023 5

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After 10 years of dating, I’m sick of men saying we’re ‘just friends’

There is a scene in Jane Austen’s Sense and Sensibility where the hopelessly romantic Marianne Dashwood writes a letter to a man she isn’t related...

21.11.2023 2

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I took probiotics claiming to make my vagina fresher for two months - here's what happened

Hey! You there, with the vulva! Have you been convinced that you shouldn’t leave the house unless your unmentionable smells like a bag of bonbons?...

15.11.2023 6

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I'm furious about a campaign to stop men masturbating for a month

Gather round, ‘tis the time of year again. The nights are drawing in, the clocks have gone back, and idiots around the world are trying not to...

08.11.2023 8

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I'm only going to have sober sex - even one drink can ruin it

Here’s a question for you, how drunk is too drunk to have sex? Hopefully, everyone reading this will agree that there is such a thing as “too...

02.11.2023 8

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More men than ever are faking orgasms. Why... and how?

Hello. My name is Kate Lister and I have faked orgasms. It feels good to get it out there. What’s more, I’m not on my own. I’m not even in the...

24.10.2023 2

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The people writing 'No Tories' on dating apps could be missing out on great sex

Like it or loathe it, we are living in the age of woke. Personally, I am all for it. I am a fully signed up, lefty lovey who respects pronouns, voted...

18.10.2023 2

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I tried to go to work make up free – it didn’t work out well

It is 9.30pm on a Tuesday evening and I am skulking around the fresh veg aisle in my local Aldi. My eyes are fixed firmly on the floor to avoid the...

10.10.2023 3

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I tried to join a sex cult but after a week they kicked me out

How do you define a cult? It’s fairly straightforward to look at a group like the Manson Family or the People’s Temple, and say, “yep, that’s...

04.10.2023 3

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Shaming men for their penis size isn't just humiliating for them - it's bad for women too

“What is the most complementary thing you can say to a man in bed?” “Ouch.” I love that joke. Any comedian will tell you that if you have to...

26.09.2023 1

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I was furious about the idea of a 'male menopause' but I was wrong

Over a recent dinner, a friend of mine told me that her employer had brought in an “andropause policy” at work. “A what?” I asked. “An...

19.09.2023 3

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I was feeling guilty about my sexual fantasies, but now I'm letting them run wild

According to various pieces of research, between 90 and 97 per cent of the general, adult population experience sexual fantasies, but even that sounds...

12.09.2023 2

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