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Ignoring your partner's infidelity? Your marriage is over

There is a new buzzword in the sexosphere: “tolyamory.” According to to a flurry of recent articles on the topic, tolyamory “refers to an...

18.06.2024 6

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I'm had plastic surgery and I'm going to have more

I bumped into someone I went to school with a few weeks back, and after a rapid catch-up, we both said something to the effect of “you haven’t...

13.06.2024 6

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I’m a 42 year old single woman – that doesn’t make me a cougar

Shortly before I decided to quit dating apps for good, I matched with a guy who was four years younger than me. For context, I was 40 at the time....

04.06.2024 10

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Are you a couple looking for a threesome? Let me stop you right there

I found myself drunk at a hen do when the subject of threesomes came up. I didn’t know the women I was sat with all that well, so I kept shtum and...

29.05.2024 10

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Trad wives peddle a dangerous lie

Did you hear the one about the American football star who addressed a cohort of women at their graduation? He told them that the most important thing...

22.05.2024 20

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How to know when you're in love - and when you're falling out of it

Love is surely one of the greatest forces in the human universe. It has shaped our history and built civilisations. It has given us some of the most...

14.05.2024 40

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I have nothing against tantric sex – just don’t call it therapy

When I read about the ongoing court case against the sex therapist Michael Lousada, I shuddered. In case you missed it, Mr Lousada is being sued by...

09.05.2024 20

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A sexless marriage is not fine – it can be the end

According to a paper published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour in 2017, 15.6 per cent of married couples have not had sex in the last year. That...

30.04.2024 20

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Women, would you rather be stuck in a forest with a man or a bear?

There is a fascinating theological discussion currently playing out across social media: would you rather be stuck in a forest with a man or a bear?...

23.04.2024 50

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I've accidentally gone on strike from sex, men, marriage and kids

In South Korea, thousands of women have decided to opt out of dealing with men entirely. They are refusing to marry (bihon), have children...

17.04.2024 7

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I dated an AI boyfriend for two weeks and I felt guilty for ‘cheating’ on him

A few weeks ago, I read an article about a new trend amongst young women in China, who were having long-term, romantic relationships with AI generated...

09.04.2024 10

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Why happily married people cheat

I’ve done a lot of things I’m not proud of, but I’ve never cheated on a partner. Don’t worry, I won’t be breaking out the halo polish...

02.04.2024 10

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Why all straight men should try pegging once

The last time I spoke about “pegging” in front of a group of people was on a work away day when a very sweet, older colleague overheard the...

26.03.2024 5

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The menopause revolution is at a dangerous tipping point

I was 39 when Davina McCall’s Sex, Myths and the Menopause dropped on Channel 4 in 2021. And it did drop. Like an atom bomb. Seemingly overnight,...

19.03.2024 5

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I’m not sharing my bed with boyfriends anymore

Picture the scene: its 2am in the morning and I am lying in bed, wide awake. The man beside me is sleeping like a baby, and why wouldn’t he be? He...

12.03.2024 20

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It's not women who hate dad bods - it's men

The concept of the “dad bod” entered our cultural lexicon around 2015. One of the earliest confirmed uses of the term is in the now viral essay...

06.03.2024 20

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I learned the hard way that bad kissers are always terrible in bed

Last year scientists revised the date of the first kiss from 1500 BCE to 2500 BCE. The paper, authored by Troels Pank Arbøll and Sophie Lund...

27.02.2024 3

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Being old and childfree scared me, but here’s how I found a way to celebrate it

I don’t have kids. I did that on purpose. I am one of the growing number of women who decided being a mum just wasn’t for them. The childfree...

20.02.2024 10

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Wegovy worked for me, but I lost a lot more than weight

If you haven’t yet heard the words “Ozempic” or “Wegovy” where have you been? Both are the brand names for semaglutide, the much-hyped...

14.02.2024 7

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I'm terrified of break-ups. Is this why I've been single for 10 years?

You’ve been with your partner for a while now, maybe you live together, maybe there are kids. In the beginning, the pair of you were all passion and...

07.02.2024 30

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The uncomfortable truth about dating apps

I’m off the dating apps, and I mean it this time. I know there are folk out there who met over Tinder and then waltzed off into the sunset to live...

31.01.2024 7

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Period sex is the sexual taboo that I just don't get

Even if you haven’t watched it, I am going assume that most of us, at the very least, have now become aware of the film Saltburn, written, directed,...

25.01.2024 6

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Don't ask me how many people I've slept with. I don't know

There are many red flags to watch out for when embarking on a romantic relationship; lovebombing, jealousy, how they treat the waiting staff, all...

16.01.2024 30

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My boobs have started to sag - and it's taught me a lot

I have long been fascinated with our culture’s obsession with breasts. Because we are, aren’t we? Obsessed. We are hardly running low on boobs –...

09.01.2024 4

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My sex experts of the year - and what we can learn from them

Leading artists, philanthropists and activists have been applauded for their talents in a flurry of 2023 round-ups over the past fortnight. But as we...

05.01.2024 20

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My New Year's resolution is to stop pleasing men in bed

According to a YouGov survey, only 16 per cent of Brits are planning on making a New Year’s Resolution this year. That’s a lot lower than I would...

29.12.2023 30

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I'm getting my revenge on obnoxious couple culture this Christmas

Happy Cuffing Season, everybody! What do you mean you’ve never heard of it? You must be one of those strange people who does not live your life...

13.12.2023 8

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Everything you know about 'love languages' is wrong

I know you have heard someone talk about “love languages” before. Maybe they did it to make a joke. “Netflix and chill are my love language”,...

06.12.2023 10

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