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4 Reasons Your Partner Absolutely Sucks at Listening to You

Feeling ignored or unheard can create a harmful disconnect in even the healthiest of relationships.

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One of the most frustrating experiences in relationships is when a partner won’t listen to us, whether in conversations or in our requests. For example, your significant other might flat-out ignore you when you tell them about your day; or, on the other hand, they might say they’ll help with chores and never follow through, failing to listen to your pleas for assistance. 

Whatever the case, feeling ignored or unheard can create a harmful disconnect in even the healthiest of relationships. Here’s why your partner might not be listening to you—and how to communicate when you don’t feel heard.

4 Reasons Your Partner Won’t Listen to You

Here are four common reasons our partners might tune us out.

1. They’re Thinking Ahead

One of the more innocent reasons your partner might not listen to you is because they’re too busy thinking ahead.

“Sometimes people focus more on what they want to say next instead of really listening,” explains Dr. David Joseph, psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, and author of “Listening for a Lifetime. “It’s common to think........

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