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3 Signs You’re Trapped in a Trauma-Bonded Relationship

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The term “trauma bond” has been thrown around carelessly over the past few years, becoming a buzzword of sorts. However, despite what many believe, a true trauma bond occurs between a victim and their abuser, not between two people who have bonded over shared trauma. Clinically speaking, it’s much darker than how it’s often portrayed online.

If you or someone you know is trapped in an unhealthy dynamic with an abuser, it’s crucial to seek professional help and safety in community. Here are three signs you might be in a trauma-bonded relationship.

1. You Feel Obligated to Protect or Save Your Partner

Abusers typically target empathy or sensitive individuals, molding them into their ideal victims. They take advantage of their kindness, understanding, and even insecurity, and begin to break down their confidence and sense of self. Perhaps they themselves play the victim in their own lives, gaining the........

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