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The Real Reason You Can’t Orgasm, According to Medical Experts

Stress, medications, menopause, and the wrong kind of stimulation can all make orgasm harder. Here’s what experts say may help.

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There’s no lonelier feeling than lying next to someone who just had a toe-curling orgasm while you stare at the darn ceiling fan, wondering how long you can keep pretending this is fine. When that keeps happening, and it bothers you (understandable), there’s a clinical name for it.

Anorgasmia is when orgasms are absent, delayed, infrequent, or much weaker than expected even though you’re turned on. One off night doesn’t qualify. Some people have never had an orgasm at all, while others used to and now can’t. Some people can get there on their own but not with a partner.

Sadly, it’s not rare. The Cleveland Clinic says up to 15% of women report never having had an orgasm, and one........

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