A few years ago, I was giving a presentation to a large group in Seoul, South Korea, and I met a woman in her late 50s. Kyong shared an early childhood recollection, and I was immediately struck. It was her first memory of life: "My mother gave me a banana. We were poor and did not have much fruit to eat. I never had a banana before and it was so special. I loved the taste." When expressing this recollection, Kyong's face radiated with an aura of serenity.
The main theme of Kyong's memory was a deep appreciation of the gift she received. She delighted in the banana and readily recalled the occasion many years later. In line with her remembrance, Kyong found everyday objects and experiences in life to be emotionally uplifting. Rather than overlook or minimize what might be perceived as lesser matters, Kyong took notice and savored the experience. This pattern seemed to contribute to Kyong's appreciative outlook on life and a sense of well-being.
I got to know Kyong, and in terms of personality dimensions, she had a high degree of engagement in the activities of living and an elevated level of social interest or kinship with humanity and other living beings. In terms of optimism and pessimism, Kyong appeared optimistic and had expectations of positive outcomes for most events. At the same time, Kyong had to deal with difficult circumstances in her life, but she felt capable of surmounting challenges with the support of other people and through her own strivings. As in her early memory, Kyong appeared conscientious and can be relied upon to follow through on obligations and responsibilities.
Concerning perceptual modalities, the senses of touch and taste are prominent in Kyong's recollections. She appeared to enjoy touching or holding objects that are natural. Kyong also liked to try out new foods and looked forward to meals in the company of family members.
Kyong's early recollection and her approach to experiences suggest a life lesson for all of us. We are all capable of appreciating the simple pleasures in life, however, it is easy to overlook or fail to notice the possibility of these small joys. Smelling a flower, observing a baby's smile, having a conversation with a friend, going for a walk outdoors, helping a person in need, or any number of positive events potentially contribute to a sense of well-being. What brings delight varies for each individual, but opportunities to attend to life's simple pleasures are at hand for most of us.
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