Imagine you meet a teenage girl who starts telling you about her childhood, when she mentions, somewhat casually, that she was shown porn by a strange man. He introduced her to it when she was 9, before she had even held hands with a boy, before she had gotten her first period, without her parents knowing.

Week after week, he showed her more, each time something more extreme. By 10 it seemed normal. By 11, she was watching regularly on her own. She is calm about this, reassuring you that this has happened to most of her friends.

Would anyone think this was normal? Part of coming-of-age, her healthy development? Exploring her sexuality? Or would we call this abuse?

This is exactly what is happening to children today when we hand them a smartphone. But instead of one stranger introducing them to porn, it is a billion-dollar industry, profiting from their trauma.

These days we talk a lot about trauma. We worry about the impact of words, we agonize about our parenting, we inspect every inch of our childhoods.

But one trauma being tragically ignored, potentially lasting trauma, changing the minds and souls of children, is porn.

By porn I mean what Common Sense Media calls any content showing “nudity and sexual acts,” like videos of people having sex.

Today in the US the average age of first exposure is 12. And this does not just happen on dedicated porn sites. Parents can block those all they want or trust their children would never go there, but many access this content on Instagram, X, Snapchat, Discord, Twitch and TikTok. Many stumble across it accidentally.

Modern porn is unlike anything else in history. Children are learning about sex for the first time from social-media algorithms designed to drag them toward ever-more degrading content.

They are also learning from sites like Pornhub, which use addictive tactics like infinite scrolling, variable rewards, autoplay features and subscription services to unlock more. This is the gamification of graphic porn.

These platforms also use data mining to track people and provide endless, personalized videos. Users are categorized by their fantasies and fetishes; “See more like this” suggestions can escalate from incest to violence to “barely legal” content; viewing habits get leaked to third parties for targeted ads; rape and assault........

© New York Post