There's a phrase we hear every holiday season but secretly long for year-round: Peace on Earth and goodwill to all. We say it on greeting cards. We sing it in carols. And then we go right back to fearing and hating our neighbors.

U2's "Peace on Earth" captures this ache. Bono wrote it after the Omagh bombing in Northern Ireland, in which 29 people lost their lives, including a pregnant woman. The song is a lament, an existential wound asking: When will we ever get peace on earth?

We should be asking this question every day. Because what we see around us makes it urgent. We are consumed with endless fear, anger, and hatred. Ego is being celebrated and rewarded. We vilify the people next door instead of loving them. Our culture now celebrates the very qualities our greatest spiritual teachers warned us against - the love of money and power, greed, and self-importance.

Aren't we better than this? Don't we already know that love is the highest good?

As we approach a new year, many of us sense that something is profoundly wrong with our world. We make lists of resolutions - exercise more, eat better, save money - while the deeper crisis goes unaddressed.

What if there's one resolution that actually matters?

How is it that we've known these deep truths for thousands of years but still fear, hate, and sometimes kill our neighbors instead of loving them?

Harvard biologist E.O. Wilson diagnosed our problem perfectly: "The real problem of humanity is the following: we have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, and god-like technology."

Wilson's diagnosis has a name: accelerating evolutionary mismatch. It's the gap between our ancient biology and the world we've built is widening faster than we can adapt. We are cavemen piloting a spaceship,........

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