Understanding Child Development

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Feeling bored, numb, or vaguely alone can be a sign that you are living on autopilot.

Autopilot means you do not have enough access to your own emotions to feel your own life.

Your emotions are still there, and getting back in touch with them is a learnable skill.

Do you feel bored in your life?

Do you enjoy happy occasions less than you should?

Do you sometimes feel emotionally numb?

Do other people seem to experience more intense joy, love, or closeness than you do?

Do you sometimes question the purpose and value of your life?

Do you put others' needs before your own?

If you answered "yes" to two or more of the questions above, it may be a sign that you're on autopilot. What does this mean? It means that you do not have enough access to your true emotions.

In my work as a psychologist, I have heard many people express these concerns. Almost all have been fine, good-hearted people who are successful in many areas of their lives. But for them, something is missing. Some mysterious ingredient that makes life feel full, rich, and stimulating is simply lacking for them.

I worked for over a decade to determine what had happened to these good people to cause them to feel........

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