As a couples therapist, I’ve heard countless complaints from partners. Yet, one sentence has never been uttered in my office: “I feel too understood.” On the contrary, most struggles stem from a lack of empathy—a skill more essential than love in maintaining a strong relationship.

In my book, Why Can’t You Read My Mind?, I describe empathy as the emotional glue that holds relationships together. Love may bring people together, but empathy is what keeps them connected. The foundation of a resilient, thriving relationship is the ability to truly understand a partner's feelings, even when you disagree or don’t share the same perspective.

Following are three scenarios illustrating how empathy can transform relationships and practical tips for strengthening this essential skill.

Olivia often felt frustrated because Marcus didn’t care about her........

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