If you were to break your leg or injure your knee, how long would it take for you to go and take care of your health? I assume that you won't wait too long. Yet, according to John Gottman, a relationship and marriage expert, couples wait for an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help. Can you imagine what happened during that time?

Simply said, couples have years to build up anger, frustration, and resentment before they begin to work on the relationship and attend couple counseling to save their relationship and learn practical couple skills.

When a couple cannot solve their issue alone yet avoid professional help, their problems amplify. This is why it is important to realize the value of counseling and attend therapy as soon as couples recognize signs that their relationship is in trouble.

Below are the main warning signs that you need to look out for and hurry to attend couples counseling before it is too late.

It is very destructive when your partner is dominant, controlling, manipulative or abusive. These negative dynamics also take place when the dominant partner in a relationship holds power and sanctions most of the ongoings of the relationship.

Lack of emotional and physical intimacy will create distance and indifference, and sooner or later, one or both individuals will fall out of love. Lack of intimacy can give rise to feelings of neglect, loneliness, and emotional disconnection.

Contempt comes from a place of superiority and makes the other feel inferior. It takes place when your partner puts you down and criticizes you or when you feel unappreciated or unacknowledged. By actively respecting each other, couples can foster an environment of equality and care.

If your partner blames you........

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