Friendships are meant to be a sanctuary—a place of happiness, trust and support. But when a friend gaslights you, this safe space turns into an emotional battlefield, leaving you questioning your reality and sense of self. To add insult to injury, gaslighting is often difficult to identify as it’s a subtle and lowkey form of constant and progressive manipulation—gradually pulling you away from your real world toward self-doubt and guilt.

Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic where the victim is made to doubt their reality and feel crazy. It often involves key elements such as denying facts upfront, twisting words and their meanings, or making you feel overly sensitive. While breaking free is tough, here are five strategic ways to start.

The first step in addressing gaslighting is recognizing it—understanding that someone is warping your sense of reality. A 2024 study published in the journal Current Approaches in Psychiatry shows that gaslighting can happen in various relationships—from romantic to social to political.

It also suggests that gaslighting is often driven by power imbalances, personality traits and how much individuals depend on one another. Phrases like “you’re imagining things” or “that never happened” are common red flags. Dr. Robin Stern, co-founder and associate director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a pioneering psychologist in this field, exemplifies multiple scenarios of gaslighting in her book—The Gaslight Effect (2007). She underscores that recognizing early........

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