As a couples therapist, I’ve seen loving relationships unravel not because the love wasn’t real but because of the mistakes couples didn’t know they were making. These missteps often act like a silent ticking bomb, eroding the foundation of trust, intimacy, and connection.

Here are the four biggest mistakes I see and how to avoid them:

When something goes wrong, it’s easy to point fingers. Whether it’s a forgotten anniversary or a tense financial situation, blame shifts the focus from resolution to resentment.

Example: Leah constantly accused her husband, Darren, of being inattentive because he forgot to plan date nights. Darren, in turn, blamed Leah for being too critical, saying, “Why would I want to do anything when you’re always nagging me?” Their once playful banter turned into daily arguments.

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