As a parent coach, the number one struggle I hear from parents is not feeling appreciated by their adult children. Building a respectful relationship with your adult child can be challenging, especially when old habits and family dynamics linger.

While you may hope your adult child will naturally show you respect, mutual respect must be cultivated. Here are three strategies to help you foster a more respectful relationship and strengthen your bond with your adult child.

It’s easy to fall into the habit of offering advice or solutions, especially when you see your adult child struggling. However, unsolicited advice can come across as controlling or dismissive, making them feel unheard. On the other hand, listening shows you value their thoughts and experiences, laying the groundwork for mutual respect.

Example
When Jared, 28, mentioned to his mother, Linda, that he was considering a career change, she quickly began listing why it wasn’t a good idea. Jared felt his mother didn’t trust him to make sound decisions, and their conversation ended in frustration. The next time he brought up the topic, Linda listened without interjecting. As a result, Jared felt more........

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