Have you ever had one of those moments when you just know something’s off, but you can’t quite figure out what it is? You’re not sure why, but there’s this deep feeling inside you that says, “This isn’t right. This isn’t me.”

It’s the kind of feeling that creeps up when you're at work, in your relationships, or even just going through your daily routine. And for the longest time, I couldn’t shake it. That nagging question—Who am I really?

Let me tell you, I’ve been there. In fact, I’ve spent a long time there. I used to ask myself the same thing. Who am I?

In my job, I felt like a shadow of the person I could be. I wasn’t alive—I was just surviving.

In my relationships, I often wondered if I was truly connected to the people I loved, or if I was just playing a part in a script I didn’t even write. And when I looked in the mirror, the reflection didn’t always match the person I imagined myself to be.

Back in 2014, I was living in Kazakhstan. I had a job I didn’t love, a life that didn’t feel like mine, and I was just kind of existing. My routine felt safe, sure, but it didn’t make me feel alive. One day, at work, I saw this colleague of mine. She was probably in her 50s—but she had this energy that was contagious. Every morning, she walked into the office with a smile that lit up the whole room. And she was so passionate about this hobby she had—handmade clothes, making beautiful designs by felting fabric. She even turned it into a new

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