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Quiet Quitting Happens in Marriages and Relationships

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12.02.2024

A lot has been written about quiet quitting a job, but there are also signs that a person is quiet quitting their marriage or long-term relationship. Decades ago, before the trendy term had been developed, Neil Diamond and Barbra Streisand provided a dead-on description of quiet quitting in their duet, “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore.” The lyrics describe a relationship in which partners just quit trying.

Quiet quitting describes the practice of doing the minimum you can do and still manage to hold onto a job or, in this case, a marriage. If you’re the spouse who is still invested in the relationship, it can be dismaying to see your partner seem to evaporate into thin air over time. They may still be “showing up” physically, but you feel that they are as ephemeral as a ghost in terms of the substance they bring to the marriage.

There are four aspects of the relationship that may offer clues that you’re married to a quietly quitting spouse . . . or that you’re quietly quitting the relationship yourself:

1. Doing the minimum: Quiet quitting is all about putting out the least possible energy and doing as little as possible to get by. You want to spend as little time as possible with your partner—doing only things on the “required” list. You find yourself making plans to do things on your own, and you find that you’re not worried about leaving your partner alone on their own. Quiet quitters often feel........

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