One of the most unsettling parts of a breakup is the loss of identity. When you’ve been in a relationship for a significant period of time, it’s easy to blend your sense of self with your partner. You adapt to their routines and embrace their interests, and, over time, your individual identity can become tangled with theirs.

So when the relationship ends, you’re left wondering: Who am I, without them?

This question is not only common, but it’s an essential part of the healing process. In my practice, I see countless clients grappling with this loss of identity, feeling as though they no longer know themselves outside the context of the relationship. But I want to offer you this: A breakup is not the end of your identity—it’s an invitation to rediscover it.

In Break Up On Purpose, I guide readers through the process of reclaiming their sense of self, offering practical exercises and reflections to help you reconnect with who you are, independent of your former partner.

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