Narcissists are often thought of as possessive and controlling. They want to know where you are going, who you are with, and what you are doing, at all times. Yet, there is a type of narcissist out there that utilizes a different tactic to gain control. In fact, this type of partner may seem like they could care less about your whereabouts. Yet, the type of control they seek may be just as dangerous.

Utilizing a cycle of idealization (love-bombing) and devaluation (emotional abandonment), the covert narcissist makes you believe that you are “their person,” and that no one else in their life is as “special” as you. They make it seem like you are everything to them.

Yet, one day, things change. Instead of a continual stream of fun, chatty, and flirty texts and interactions, there’s silence. The drastic drop in communication is alarming, and you attempt to reach them by texting and calling, yet there is no response. At first, you worry that they have been in an accident, but then you........

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