Ben was just a child when he became homeless and recollecting that time, he explained, “My mum was very strict, and my dad was the opposite. I used to stay with him every two weeks. Those very different schools of upbringing were confusing for me.”

Amid bullying and rising tension at home, changes in Ben’s behaviour began to impact his education. Even after moving in with his father, his situation showed little improvement. Lacking clear structure and direction, his daily life became progressively more chaotic, leaving him feeling unsettled and disconnected.

Social services eventually intervened, and he was placed in supported accommodation. He distinctly recalls the experience saying, “I remember that time being really difficult. All my possessions were in a black bag. I had to fend for myself.”

Over the next four years, Ben moved between more than 15 sites, including hostels, temporary accommodation and periods sleeping on the streets. 

The constant disruption meant he unable to fully settle or build a sense of routine. Without this, and carrying unresolved trauma, he struggled to manage his emotions and form any real lasting relationships.

By the time he was referred to Centrepoint aged just 19, Ben said years of upheaval had taken their toll. “I was like a volcano. I had so much rage in me. I put them through so much, but they never gave up on me.” 

With consistent encouragement and care, things gradually began to improve. Centrepoint staff worked closely with Ben to rebuild his self-confidence and help him to recognise his strengths. As Lana, a support worker at the charity, explained, “We gave him the space and support he needed to rise above his challenges.”

That steady support was life changing. Ben credits it with helping him see his own potential and begin to believe in a different future. “Lana always reminded me of my worth, saying, ‘Ben, you’re good. Ben, you’ve got potential. Ben, you can do it,’” he recalled.

Now 47, Ben has built a stable and fulfilling life. He is a father........

© Norwich Evening News