Earlier this week, I was lying in a puddle of sweat with a cold towel on my forehead. It was day three of the flu, and I was frustrated with my inability to do anything. As a result, I was trying to decide whether to get off the sofa and try to push myself through it.

On one end, I knew I was ill, and my body was telling me to rest. On the other end, I am a very stubborn Finnish soul with lots of sisu, and I persist through challenges. Was this one of the scenarios that I was simply meant to push through?

Moving beyond the frustration of being ill, we are often faced with situations like these in which we need to decide whether to push or not to push. How much do we keep pushing when we are feeling tired but still have things to do? How do we know how much to push when we want to create change in our lives? How do we know when to stop pushing and let the momentum of life bring the right opportunities to us?

It could be argued that every situation you are faced with brings forth the following three questions:

To know when, where, and how to push, you need........

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