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There are those who are more goal-driven and those who are more process-oriented.

Driven folks have strong purpose but can be too demanding, while process folks can drift and have regrets.

The key is finding the happy middle where you have a sense of purpose yet can still appreciate everyday life.

In one camp are those for whom reaching a specific goal is the driver. Whether it is going to New York City, making a million dollars and becoming a CEO, or completing the painting or novel they’ve been working on, these folks are always looking ahead to a finish line. For others, the journey to New York is the focus; what they do every day on the job is what counts, and the act of painting or writing—the doing—is its own reward. These are different approaches to running your life, each with its own strengths and weaknesses. Here’s how they break down:

Strengths: Outcome-driven people have a strong sense of purpose and take pride in their accomplishments. In a relationship with someone like themselves, they can inspire and motivate their partner through their shared view of life’s priorities. At work, they are admired for their discipline and achievements, and as parents, they serve as strong role models of hard work and focus.

Weaknesses: Because they are always........

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