Is every kind person blissfully happy? While kindness is a cornerstone of well-being, life isn't always a smooth path. Anxiety, depression, and countless other challenges can dim even the brightest spirit. However, when we flip the question, the answer becomes clearer: Can someone who thrives on unkindness, who deliberately seeks to hurt others, truly find happiness? In my experience as a clinical psychologist, the answer is a resounding no.

Over the course of three decades, I've had the privilege of working with thousands of individuals. A common thread I've observed is the surprising severity with which we judge ourselves. We often know the full story behind our actions, the intricate web of thoughts, emotions, and experiences that led us to a particular choice. While this self-awareness can be a catalyst for growth, it also has a dark side. It can magnify our inner critic, leading to a cycle of self-blame and negativity.

The reactions we see on social media offer a fascinating window into our collective values. Videos depicting acts of cruelty ignite a firestorm of outrage and condemnation. Conversely, displays of compassion, whether it's a stranger helping someone in need or a heartwarming........

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