The idea that we must become weak and vulnerable to be strong is a paradox. We often associate strength with control or power.

Our most significant moments of growth tend to come when we’re willing to be the first ones to be vulnerable. I have found a willingness to face my weaknesses, often with a dose of humility, allows me to see that I still have room to grow.

Then I can ask myself a critical question. What do I want to put into that room?

People mean well when they encourage us to be strong when we face the challenging moments of our lives, but that effort is an artificial construct.

Imagine that your emotions are a river. Your desire to be strong is a dam you build to control the flow of complex feelings.

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