Anywhere you go in the real world or on the internet, adultery is a constant topic of discussion. Although people mostly agree that it’s wrong in general, they disagree on whether you should tell your partner if you’ve cheated on them or whether you should tell a friend that their partner has cheated on them. (This, of course, assumes that fidelity is an important aspect of your relationship, no matter how you and your partner define it.)

The view from the other side is discussed less often, though. Although there are a lot of opinions about what to do after you find out your partner has cheated on you, I see much less written about the question of whether you should want someone to tell you if you've been cheated on (regardless of who tells you, your partner or a friend).

On the simplest level, of course, it is up to every person to decide for themselves whether they want to know if they’ve been cheated on. This is based on the basic concept of autonomy that says we all have the right to conduct our........

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