Aristotle said, “Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”

Steve Jobs echoed a similar sentiment, proclaiming, “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.”

Wayne Dyer added, “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of abundance in your life.”

Many accomplished people have repeated the same message, not to mention the plethora of gripping book titles and memes promising that you just need to love your work to succeed and be fruitful. So, what happens when you love your work but suffer from strained relationships with the people around you?

While compatibility with others can feel like the cure, it is not always possible. We live in a world filled with difference: different philosophies, political views, religions, cultures, languages, personalities, analytical and problem-solving orientations, strengths and talents, adversities, emotional coping strategies, and attachment styles.

Attachment theory was originally developed by John Bowlby who found that infants developed certain attachment styles with their primary caregivers based on the caregiver’s availability and that these attachments could carry into adulthood. The three commonly cited styles of attachments, as typified by Ainsworth et. al. (1978) are:

Vîrgă et al. (2019) conducted research on attachment styles in the workplace and found that people with anxious attachment styles tended to perceive more........

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