The answer to that is not really. When a little boy falls, they are told, “Suck it up,” and “Don’t be a crybaby; remember, you have to be tough.” They are basically told by society to stuff their feelings because they have to be tough and not cry like a little girl might do. Now they don’t know what to do with these feelings, except they are not allowed to express them in public.

Now this little boy has grown to be a teenager, and his best friend has been killed in an automobile crash or died from a drug overdose, or perhaps someone in his family has died. He has no idea what to do with his feelings or who to talk to because he has never been allowed to express them.

This teenager is now a young man in his 20s, and he has had other experiences of death and grief throughout his life and is still not sure........

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