“I take you to be my spouse. To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until parted by death. This is my solemn vow.” — Common Civil Wedding Vows

Choosing to marry someone is one of the most important decisions you make as a human—and it’s generally intended to last a lifetime. Before you vow to spend your life with one specific person, it can be helpful to have some challenging, deep conversations with your partner.

In addition to the fun wedding planning talks and lighter conversations, asking your partner some unconventional, potentially controversial questions can help ensure that you've picked a mate who is a good long-term fit for you. They also make for deeper, more intimate dialogue about who you are, how you want to live, and what you expect and want in a mate. Although these questions may be difficult, being vulnerable is key to intimacy, bonding, and attachment.

This is a highly heated topic for many engaged couples—especially because it directly conflicts with the “forever after” romantic notion of marriage. Yet, the purpose of a prenuptial agreement........

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