One of the most often used phrases in describing the important concept of derech eretz (respectful behavior) is “Derech Eretz Kadmah  LaTorah” – derech eretz  proceeds (or comes before) the Torah.

At first blush, this phrase appears to be relatively simple and straight forward. In the total scheme of things, it should make perfect sense that respectful and exemplary middot and menschlichkeit are considered attributes, characteristics and behaviors which take precedence over the Torah. Or, to quote my high school Rebbe, “how is it even possible for one to engage in Torah study and learning, or to follow the laws, precepts and values of the Torah, if one is unable to exhibit proper behavior, middot and etiquette. It is antithetical at best”.

At the risk of getting caught-up on semantics, and the variety of important halachic interpretations and implications, I present this topic with several points of reference.

The literal meaning of derech eretz is defined as “the way of the land” and is a term used to describe proper behavior. The concept of derech eretz kadmah l’torah is referenced in Leviticus Rabba 9:3. The term is further illustrative of the manner in which we view derech eretz as a top communal priority and responsibility; and as a blueprint or road map for the manner in which we are expected to behave, interact and speak with one another. To be sure, derech eretz according to the Torah is a mandate as well as a moral imperative.

Additional proof texts regarding the importance of derech eretz are found in Pirkei Avot (3:21) which states that “Rabbi Elazar ben-Azaria says: without the study of torah there can be no derech eretz; and, without derech eretz there can be no Torah”

The implications of these and other similar proof texts all have a significant cumulative impact upon our understanding of derech eretz kadma l’torah – the manner in which derech eretz precedes the importance of the Torah.

As an educator and influencer, I have written and lectured extensively on this critically important topic, but every time I do, I am deeply pained to the core.  Not necessarily because of the gravity of the topic, which is troubling enough, but rather its implications and the manner in which the norms and standards of derech eretz as a way of life, is currently devolving and is reaching an all-time low.

Frankly, I and many of my educator colleagues are getting very tired and frustrated in offering blame-game excuses – namely, blaming or pointing fingers at society for this matzav.

Today, it appears that every other article, drasha or post on this topic puts the blame on society; positing that what we are witnessing is just another sad mirror reflection of our larger society.

Friends, although the profound lack of derech eretz does in part mirror our society, its high time that our homes, schools, and community demand more responsibility, accountability, ownership and self-discipline from our parents, students and........

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