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"Roster dating" is when you date multiple people simultaneously without choosing one to date exclusively.

It can help if you don't want to date anyone exclusively or tend to jump into exclusivity too quickly.

However, it can be difficult to coordinate, delay decision-making, be a turn-off, and prevent depth.

If you choose to roster date, enforce limits and be honest and upfront with yourself and others.

Are you currently dating three, four, seven, 10, or maybe even 42 different people? If so, you may be doing what's been dubbed on social media as "roster dating" or "rostering." That's when you keep dating multiple people simultaneously without choosing one to date exclusively. Maintaining such a lineup or roster of people to date for a while or even indefinitely could be a way of keeping your options open. But at the same time, it could be lining you up for some significant risks, especially if you do want to eventually go exclusive with the one who is the right fit for you.

Roster Dating Could Be for You if You Don't Want Exclusivity

Here's an exclusive: not everyone wants exclusivity. Maybe you'd just like to keep getting different things—such as sex, companionship, money, free meals, variety, and did I mention sex?—from different people on your roster. This could be your way of having your cake and eating it too—and going out to shows with it, and cuddling with it. You get the........

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