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This week, flash floods swept through Nepal. Thousands of lives were lost overnight. Families shattered. Villages erased.

If you felt a moment of sorrow reading that sentence and then felt the sorrow fade as your attention returned to your day, you have just experienced one of the most consistent and unsettling findings in the psychology of empathy: Our grief has a geography. It travels along the lines of our identities and thins with distance.

The Psychology of Distant Loss

Psychologists have documented this pattern for decades. We respond powerfully to a single identified life in danger and far less to thousands of statistical lives, a phenomenon researchers call the identifiable victim effect. As numbers grow, feeling shrinks, a collapse of compassion sometimes described as psychic numbing. Our empathy is also strongly modulated by group membership. Lives that share our community, our language, our nationality, or our alma mater register more deeply than lives that do not.

None of this makes us bad people. These are ancient features of a social brain that evolved in small groups, where the suffering that mattered for survival was the suffering nearby. But in a world where we witness planetary loss daily, on our phones, in real time, these features leave us strangely calibrated: flooded with information about distant........

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