“Can I buy you a drink?” is a loaded question. It could be an innocent request from someone who’s interested in having a cordial conversation. Other times, saying “yes” means you may have to fend off someone who feels entitled to spend the rest of the night with you.

In the worst-case scenario, someone is trying to take advantage of you or has a roofie in their pocket. It can be extremely difficult for women, especially when under pressure to respond quickly, to suss out which is which.

Feminist blogger Jennifer Dziura found a fool-proof way to stay safe while understanding someone’s intentions. It’s not a snarky put-down or anything that will embarrass a man who approaches, but she says it instantly reveals their true intentions with incredible accuracy.

Dziura is a New York-based writer, educational humorist, educator and the founder of Get Bullish.

The trick that reveals his true intentions

She says if a man asks if he can buy you a drink, to ask for a non-alcoholic beverage or food.

If they’re sincerely interested in spending some time getting to know you, they won’t mind buying something booze-free like a soda or a bowl of popcorn. But if they intend to lower your defenses, they’ll throw a mild tantrum after you refuse the booze. Her thoughts on........

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