Recently in Mumbai, one 24-yr-old guy, Sonu Barai, chased and fatally stabbed his 23-yr-old former girlfriend, Manisha Yadav, and committed suicide by slitting his throat ('Suspecting affair, man stabs ex-GF, kills self,’ FPJ, Oct 25). He suspected that his girlfriend was seeing someone else. They had broken up a few days before the gory incident. Theirs was a decade-long relationship. The guy was seething with anger that his girlfriend jilted him. So, he took a drastic step. Alas, the breakup destroyed two young lives. Why don't we understand that breakups in a relationship are like bends in the river? It's nature's way to put brakes on a relationship before it worsens. In other words, a breakup is a blessing in disguise. It's a hint from the universe and an insinuation from destiny.

Everything in life has a purpose. Nothing happens without a reason. A breakup also has a meaning, albeit hidden. It teaches people deeper lessons of life and relationships. At the same time, when we break off with someone, however close he/she may have been, we're again open to forging new bonds. So long as one's in a relationship, it's difficult to weigh other options. But once the earlier bond loses its grip, you're free. A child learns to walk by stumbling, and a horse rider falls many times before he becomes an expert rider. Likewise, breakups are steps to a greater and better relationship in the future, or even if one never finds an ideal partner in life, breakups teach him/her........

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