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The 5 Worst Things to Say During Sex, According to Sex Therapists

From “are you almost done?” to comments about sweat, experts say these lines can turn intimacy into a crime scene.

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TikTok has been doing its thing again — first with people sharing what to say during sex, then with an equally vocal counter-trend of people listing what absolutely should not come out of anyone’s mouth mid-act.

Sex therapists and relationship experts spoke to Tyla about the five things that will kill the mood faster than anything else, whether you’re with a long-term partner, a situationship, or someone you met two hours ago.

1. “Are you almost done?”

This question communicates one thing very clearly: you’d rather be somewhere else. Nobody wants to feel like their partner is watching the clock, and hurting their feelings is just the start of it. 

“Asking if your partner is almost done can not only make them feel rushed and pressured, but also unappreciated or self-conscious,” said Annabelle Knight, sex and relationship expert at Lovehoney. “Putting your partner under pressure can make it........

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