5 Ways to Make an Age-Gap Relationship Work, Including One Conversation Most People Avoid

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5 Ways to Make an Age-Gap Relationship Work, Including One Conversation Most People Avoid

At the end of the day, an age-gap relationship survives the same way any other one does.

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Age-gap relationships get a lot of scrutiny. People love to assume there must be a story behind it. Maybe one person is being used. Maybe someone has mommy or daddy issues. When really, maybe everybody should mind their damn business for five seconds. 

To be fair, the skepticism doesn’t come from nowhere. A big age difference can bring real issues, including finances, life-stage mismatches, power dynamics, family planning, and long-term care questions. But experts told SELF that age-gap relationships can work well when both people face those realities directly, rather than pretending love will magically smooth them over.

1. Find common ground that actually matters

Susan Winter, author of Older Women, Younger Men, said that shared interests can help couples stay connected across generational differences. That........

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