In the age of “being real” about our lives, the idea that marriage is hard has become a standard trope. People love to talk about how long-term relationships take work, couples have conflicts, and marriage counselors exist for a reason.

However, there’s a counterargument to the “marriage is hard” idea, and one woman is stating it clearly. Haley made a video saying that the hill she will die on is that “marriage is not hard.”

“If you think marriage itself is hard, then you’re probably not with the right person,” she said. “Life is hard. Extenuating circumstances in your life can be very difficult. And they can put pressure on your life and on your marriage, for sure. But the marriage itself is not meant to be hard. Like, my marriage gets me through the hard other things of life.”

@haleyngauthier and I’ll keep shouting it from the rooftops!!!! #happilymarried #relationshipadviceforwomen #bigsisteradvice ♬ original sound – haley 🙂

and I’ll keep shouting it from the rooftops!!!! #happilymarried #relationshipadviceforwomen #bigsisteradvice ♬ original sound – haley 🙂

Should marriage be hard?

It’s a pretty bold set of statements. But how much of it applies across the board?

Some people agreed with her completely:

“Agreed. Life is hard, your relationship should make it easier.”

“My marriage is the EASIEST part of my life.”

“Marriage isn’t hard. Life is hard and your person makes it easier.”

“My marriage is what makes the ‘bad days’ not so bad. Life is hard but being married to the right person is not.”

“I totally agree. Marriage is not hard – LIFE is hard. But if you are with the right person you will face the difficult times together as a united front.”

“Life is hard, marriage should be the respite. If marriage is making your life hard, that’s a partner problem, not a marriage problem. My marriage is my safety from all of life’s messes.”

“I will absolutely die on this hill too. Life can be challenging but my marriage never contributes to those challenges.........

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