Why We Lose Ourselves in the Moments That Matter |
The four inner forces that overpower your values in real time
Last week we described a familiar problem. We care about honesty, patience, and self control. We genuinely want to live that way. Yet in ordinary moments, we often do not.
Consider a simple situation.
You are speaking with someone close to you. A spouse, a coworker, or a friend. The conversation shifts. They say something dismissive or unfair. You feel it immediately. Your body tightens. Your thoughts speed up.
At that moment you still know your values. You know staying calm would be better. You know raising your voice will not help. You may even know you will regret what you........