No? Well, the statistics are moving in that direction. More young adults are living at home in their twenties, while unable to find the ‘right’ job for them.

Often, they start down a path, and quickly quit when the least little challenge comes their way. Why is this trend emerging?

I suspect most of us can agree: Choices comes with consequences. Some are huge, and the consequence obvious. However, some of these consequences are small, and many not even be so noticeable, but yet they accumulate as learning and experience. And then, over time, even the small choices start to add up.

At other times, the immediate consequence may give the illusion that there is no problem, but life reveals the consequence to be highly problematic over time.

These comments apply to us as individuals, and to us as parents. The problem for parents is generally not the huge, right in your face choices that have big immediate consequences. We are good at managing that.

The issue that many of the trends in parenting are built upon an overweighting of the immediate effects and a failure to look down the road to see the consequences bearing down upon your child or teen.

But let’s be clear, no one is engaging in poor choices intentionally. But what if turns out that some of our ideas are disabling our children from tapping into their strength, their vision and their capacity to thrive?

And no one told us? Or we just didn’t see it? Or perhaps we just followed the herd, as many head down this path noting that ‘it’s what everyone else is doing.’ Worse yet, our ego can get invested in the way we do it, and we end up defending our choices in order to........

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