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My Son Had An Adverse Prenatal Diagnosis, But It Would Not Have Justified Aborting Him

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06.03.2020

I understand the fear of receiving a terrifying diagnosis while pregnant, because it happened to me. As a parent, especially a mother, I wanted nothing more than to grow a “perfect” child. I selfishly desired to have him develop inside me and be delivered without any abnormalities.

We waited with much anticipation for what seemed like months for our first ultrasound. In reality, it was only seven weeks. Finally, we got to see on the screen our little baby safely growing inside my body. We breathed a sigh of relief at the security of seeing the life we created.

I was given the usual do’s and don’ts. The nurse told me to take prenatals, intake extra calories and water, rest, drink no alcohol, etc. She also provided us a huge packet whose contents briefly described a slew of optional prenatal tests and bloodwork.

Back home, we researched a bit more and went back and forth on genetic testing. For me, it was unnecessary. No diagnosis would make me view the life inside me as anything less or worthy of ending its life. My husband had a different perspective. For him, it could equip us with the best tools, doctors, and knowledge available, preparing us for the safest delivery possible if we were to receive a prenatal diagnosis like Down Syndrome or Trisomy 18.

With this outlook, we agreed. A few weeks later we were escorted back into a room to meet with the genetic counselor. We only agreed to the more extensive testing if something came back unusual in the first sample. Next, we headed to ultrasound room, where the tech gently moved the probe over my abdomen to do the nuchal translucency test. We got to see our baby’s profile. All of a sudden, the room got silent and the tech stopped talking.

Next thing we knew, a doctor........

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