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Grief sneaks up on you

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OPINION: Husband-and-wife comedians and commentators Jeremy Elwood and Michele A'Court give their views.

Michele A'Court

I stormed out of a florist shop last week. That's a weird place to storm out of – all those soft fragrances and cheerful colours, and me turning on my angry heels and stomping out the door. I wouldn't recommend it. It feels about as ineffectual as ending a call on a mobile phone with a vicious stab of one finger.

I had explained I was looking for table decorations for the cocktail party we're holding for my mother's end-of-life celebration.

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Here's the thing with me right now. Almost all of the time I function really well – host shows, get the washing on, and fill out forms for notifications of death with a level of sang froid that makes me wonder if I'm doing grief wrong. I'll even set aside time for a good cry and... nothing happens.

And then at other times, like on the phone to Work and Income to cancel her Super, my voice strangles and my face screws up. Grief is a wet stray dog who turns up uninvited and shakes itself all over your........

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