Should Being in a Relationship Feel Like Work? |
You've probably heard the phrase, "Relationships take work." But you may also have wondered, "Should it feel this hard?"
All relationships go through ups and downs. Even the best of the best relationships go through tough seasons, periods where partners wonder if it's worth it, and the relationship isn't feeling "fun." So, if it feels like you're punching the clock right now, is that a normal part of having a relationship?
To have a good relationship, you have to put in effort. Your effort should go towards communicating well, for example, learning to bring up concerns in a considerate way and working on listening rather than getting defensive. You should also have the necessary, but uncomfortable, conversations that help a relationship thrive, such as conflict repair discussions and talks that help you work as a team to meet each other's needs. Prioritizing your partner's needs as just as important as your own and showing up for them in big and small ways, such as supporting them through grief, or being there even when it's inconvenient, is important work.
This kind of labor of love is sure to improve your relationship and be part of a positive cycle in which you each give to each other, feel appreciated, and thus want to give more. When you put this type of effort towards your........