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Resentment is a persistent feeling that we are or have been treated unfairly.
Each new incident of perceived unfairness links onto previous ones, forming a weighty chain.
Resentment is degenerative; if allowed to run on autopilot, it reaches contempt and disgust.
Resentment is a persistent feeling that we’re treated unfairly—not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward. It keeps us locked in a devalued state, wherein it’s difficult to improve or appreciate or connect positively with others. It stirs fantasies of retribution, which stimulate small doses of adrenaline and cortisol for a temporary increase in energy and confidence. The amphetamine effect of these hormones leads to a temporary crash of energy and confidence. Eventually, we have only two discernible emotional states: resentment or depression.
The habitual nature of resentment means that it is never specific to one behavior—nobody resents just one thing.........