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Compassionate assertiveness engages the reflective brain, where cooperative decisions are made.
Demands, resentment, and anger engage the autopilot brain, which is defensive and resistant.
The words we use in compassionate assertiveness are not nearly as important as our emotional demeanor.
Purposely hurtful behavior, threats, and dishonesty are not negotiable or subject to requests.
In their first consultation visit, most of my clients suspect that increasing compassion in their relationships means that they must tolerate, condone, or excuse bad behavior. Quite the opposite. Modeling compassion helps partners behave in accordance with their deeper values, which will make them better partners. They learn compassionate assertiveness - standing up for their........