Many people fear being “alone.” This fear can lead to an obsessive search to find a partner. If this sounds familiar, pause and breathe in and out. Now, turn your gaze inward and ask, “Who am I?”

To figure out the answer to “Who am I?”, ask yourself questions:

As unsatisfying as it may seem to think about yourself rather than obsessing over someone else, you—yes, YOU—are who matters. In a worst-case-scenario thought experiment, imagine there’s no one for you: You will live without a life partner. Are you ready to give up and die? The challenge is to figure out how you can create a life worth living.

By answering the above questions, you learn who you are. Once you know........

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