Dealing With the Defense Mechanism of Projection

Lately, your partner has been coming home several hours late from work and doesn’t answer your text or call. You notice they are being secretive with their phone. Your neighbor tells you that a woman stayed at your house last weekend with your partner while you were out of town. However, when you express your concerns to your partner, your partner accuses you of cheating.

They tell you that you have been coming home late from work and suspect you are charging gifts for your supposed affair partner on your joint credit card. Your partner seems to be convinced that you are having an affair with your coworker. They demand that you give your phone to them to prove that you aren’t cheating. You feel deeply confused and shocked. You haven’t been coming home late from work and haven't charged anything besides gas and groceries on the joint credit card. You certainly aren’t interested in any of your coworkers. You consider giving your partner your phone just to stop their accusations. Your........

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