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Do you back down when setting boundaries or allow others to mistreat you? Do you ignore your own needs to satisfy someone else’s? Do you dismiss or minimize your feelings? Do you skip self-care because you’re busy taking care of everyone else and think you can do without? In other words, do you consistently prioritize other people’s well-being over your own?

If so, you may have a hard time choosing yourself.

Choosing to care for others and make them happy sounds like a good thing. But when you do it at your own expense, you're not being kind to yourself. Choosing yourself doesn't mean ignoring other people's needs or becoming selfish. It means recognizing that your needs, feelings, and well-being matter just as much as everyone else's.

Sometimes, you need to choose yourself. You need to take care of yourself and do what's best for you.

Choosing yourself means:

Asking for what you need

Standing up for yourself

Validating your feelings

Taking care of your body, mind, and spirit

Treating yourself like a good friend

Staying true to your values and beliefs

Doing what's right for you

I imagine those things all sound good and important. So why is it so hard to choose yourself?

Is Choosing Yourself Selfish?

You might have trouble choosing yourself because it seems selfish or uncaring.........

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