In 12-step groups, addicts must acknowledge the powerlessness, unmanageability, and denial that have impacted them. This is known as the “first step” in the 12 steps.
It’s vital for addicts to reach this point of desperation where they can no longer cling to the fantasy that they can will themselves out of their addictions on their own. In recognizing their “powerlessness,” they are, in essence, surrendering to their own will and stubbornness of self-determination. By saying they were powerless over their addiction, addicts are paradoxically taking ownership of their lives.
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