Worrisome Thoughts About Sex During Donor Conception |
For many couples, sex is not just physical but a private language of belonging. One of the most difficult parts of a fertility journey is the intrusion it creates in that intimacy. Sex and closeness slowly become timed events, and the pressure to perform can rob the couple of connection.
In short, scheduled sex mutes our most intimate love language by tracking it, monitoring it, and medicalizing it. What starts as “go have fun,” as doctors often state, gradually becomes reduced to just another task, especially as the months go on. This part of the journey toward parenthood is rarely acknowledged openly.
When fertility treatment leads to IVF with donor eggs, sex may have dropped off significantly. By this point, intimacy has often been under strain for some time. While this path can hold real hope of completing one’s family, with many hurdles and no guarantees, it also adds another layer of pressure and emotional labor—helping explain why sex may have receded, not because desire is gone, but because sex has been tied to stress for too long.
Some women report intrusive images that feel almost unbearable: the sense that another woman and her partner are doing, with ease, what you have been struggling to achieve for years.
Donor profiles can feel sexual even when nothing sexual is actually happening. This is not about desire. Fertility stress and sexual distress are closely linked. When........